He Won’t Wear His Glasses

Hi Mamas,

My seven-year-old just got glasses. Last year he was having a lot of problems with reading and we finally got him to a reading specialist for help. She noticed that he was squinting alot when he read and suggested we get his eyes checked.

That’s when we found out. So we got the glasses for him and now he can read so much better and doesn’t get frustrated. But he doesn’t like the way he looks and doesn’t want to wear them. Now what do we do?? Help!


Dear Roseanne,

I’ll bet he looks adorable! But it is an adjustment for him and it may take some time before he feels “like himself” with his glasses on. At seven, children do care how they look and don’t want to stand out as different. But did you know that one out of every six children ages three through 16 wear glasses? Since it always helps to know you’re not alone, you may want to share that tidbit with him. Hopefully by the time school starts he will be comfortable with his new look. In the meantime, these tips may help speed things along:

  • Learn about the eye together and explain what his specific issue is. Show how the glasses correct his problem and marvel over how cool it is that glasses can help out so much.
  • Don’t make a fuss or indulge him in feeling sorry for himself. Be positive. Don’t tell him he’s being brave or handling this tough situation well. It’s just life. Keep your tone neutral and matter-of-fact when talking about his new glasses but do let him know that you think he looks great!
  • Praise him for remembering to wear his glasses when it’s time to read but don’t overdo it. Let him know that taking good care of his glasses and remembering to put them on shows how grown up and responsible he’s becoming.
  • Understand that he is going to feel a little self-conscious about his new glasses so don’t point them out when you run into friends or have them over to visit (although you may want to give them the heads-up in advance). Let him take the lead in talking about them.
  • Point out that when he gets older there may be alternatives to wearing glasses (like contact lenses or lasik surgery).
  • Let him know that glasses are really important but can also be a fashion accessory (this is often a bigger selling point with girls). Remind him that he can always change the look as he gets older or as styles change. Give him a big say in picking out the frames. Even though you already have his you can keep this in mind when he’s ready for a new pair.
  • Compile a mental list of loved or admired friends, family members, celebrities and sports figures who wear glasses. Work them (and their cool glasses) into the conversation in a SUBTLE way whenever the opportunity comes up. For example, “Oh, Tim. I saw the coolest picture of (whoever will make him smile) today. Did you know he wears glasses, too?” Then show him the picture. Just remember that this is something you have to be careful with. You don’t want to be too obvious.

Another way to ease the transition to new glasses is through books. This list may help:

The Harry Potter Books, by JK Rowling (Bloomsbury)
Mom, I Need Glasses, by Angrliks Wolff (Lion Press)
The Eyes of Kid Midas, by Neal Shusterman (Little Brown and Company)
Dogs Don’t Wear Glasses by Adrienne Geoghegan (Crocodile Books)
Libby’s New Glasses, by Tricia Tusa (Holiday House)
All the Better to See You With, by Margaret Wild (Whitman and Co)
Winnie Flies Again, by Korky Paul and Valerie Thomas (Oxford University Press)
X-Ray Mable and Her Magic Specs, by Claire Fletcher (Bodley Head)
The Arthur Books, by Marc Brown (Red Fox)
Glasses. Who needs ‘Em?, by Lane Smith (Viking)
Luna and the Big Blurr, by Shirley Day
Chuckie Visits the Eye Doctor, by Luke David

Email This Post Email This Post

Ellen W. Schrier, LCSW, is a family therapist and the mother of three adolescent/young adult kids.

Warning: Illegal string offset 'echo' in /home/mamasonc/public_html/mama/wp-content/themes/hybrid/library/extensions/custom-field-series.php on line 157

Leave a Reply




With One or Both of Us

Go to AskDrMama.com & AskMamaEllen.com for the scoop!

Phone • Internet • Your Home or Group

Listen up

The Five Second Rule: True Or False?

If you pick it up within five seconds, you can eat it, right?

Watch This!

Teach your kids to step in and step up when they see a classmate being teased. Show them how to respond and tell them what to say. Let's try to make our world a little kinder and a little warmer. Please?

What You Said

  • Rebecca Benham: My son woke up with bumps on his stomach help
  • Chelie Belie: AND up the street there’s a psychotic IT that is awe-struck by me! Walks by my property carrying...
  • Chelie Belie: I live next door to Ned Flanders–how would you like that??
  • Maggie sullivan: I have a neighbor, will holler and wave at me if i am near porch but if i try to sit in the yard, or...
  • Ellen Schrier: Thank you so much! Please come back often!
  • Ellen Schrier: Hi Lisa, Sorry for the very late response. We are sorry to hear about your daughter and are sure that...
  • Lisa jacobs: My daughter was in a car accident and now has a concussion. She is plan to go to Mexico City which is a...
  • RF: Well my baby had her first two bottom theeth at 10 months old and i tought so far so good and then now at 11...
  • ofertas cine: That is a great tip particularly to those fresh to the blogosphere. Brief but very precise info… Thanks...
  • Commercial Real Estate: Hello there, You have done a great job. I will definitely digg it and personally suggest to...

Just so you know

The Mama ButtonThe information provided by MamasOnCall is not intended as a substitute for professional advice, but is for information purposes only. You assume full responsibility for the health and well-being of your family. Talk with your healthcare provider about any questions you may have regarding a medical or psychiatric condition.